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June 4th Will Always Be Ours.

Kimberly Holmes-Iverson

Jun 21, 2020
1 min

June 4th Will Always Be Ours.

{Originally posted on my IG page (@KimKeepsGoing) on what would have been my ninth wedding anniversary with Rasheed on 6/4/20.} Never needed a reminder of love more than during this week. Nine years ago today I married an incredible man. Though Rasheed Wiggins is no longer walking this earth, the love still lives. During a week filled with so much pain, I’m simply remembering a day filled with so much love & the intense joy shared by our family & friends that still makes this

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Beauty for a Decade’s Ashes

Kimberly Holmes-Iverson

Dec 31, 2019
3 min

Beauty for a Decade’s Ashes

to bestow on them a crown of beauty instead of ashes, the oil of joy instead of mourning, and a garment of praise instead of a spirit of despair. Isaiah 61:3 I thought I understood that bible verse. Beauty for ashes. It meant getting accepted into my top school after spending the previous year being rejected from all others. It meant getting a paid reporter job after years of unpaid internships. It meant a beautiful engagement ring on the day of my 30th birthday. It mean

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Love After Loss

Kimberly Holmes-Iverson

Nov 12, 2019
2 min

Love After Loss

Who knew a broken heart could feel this full again? It happened. I tried so hard to guard my heart & keep it out of my life, but love found its way back. How did love seep into the one place I guarded with the strength of 10,000 warriors? I vowed to never love another after Rasheed died, but it happened. God worked hard on me. When I least expected it, love slithered into the crevice of one of the millions of cuts of my shattered heart. I didn’t want it. I swore it wasn’t pos

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Kimberly Holmes-Iverson

Jun 23, 2019
1 min

RAW Truth Check-in – 38 mos.

Wow. It’s been a truly transformative few months. I’ve felt a real shift in my emotions and my grief journey. I haven’t shared my #rawtruth in a while with you guys. Today is #InternationalWidowsDay, so I thought it was only fitting. Decided to share a vlog this time. Listen with gentle ears. Sometimes it’s difficult to admit changes out loud. I know many more steps must be and will be taken, but the few I’ve taken over the last few months have really disclosed my growth. Sha

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Love Lives

Kimberly Holmes-Iverson

Jun 5, 2019
1 min

Love Lives

…because it happened & it was one of the best days of my life. Eight years ago, Rasheed officially took my hand, and before God, our families & friends, he asked to hold my heart. We had countless good days, some meh ones & one devastating one, but he loved me through them all & did his best to calm my crazy & keep a smile on my face. {Trust. I know it was hard work} Rasheed, I know it won’t make sense to most, but I finally forgive you for being taken away from me. My head a

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Three Years.

Kimberly Holmes-Iverson

Apr 19, 2019
2 min

Three Years.

{Never Not} “A heart that is broke is a heart that’s been loved.” -Ed Sheehan. April 16, 2016. Three years ago today my world ended. It was the one time you left without hugging me, and the wink you gave me before you closed the door that night would be our last. No matter how hard I try, the weeks leading up to this day are the most difficult. I have no energy or drive. The ‘fog’ returns and the sadness grows so heavy it’s difficult to remember my name or even breathe. Howev

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Emotions Running RAW

Kimberly Holmes-Iverson

Mar 25, 2019
7 min

Emotions Running RAW

March is a month full of birthdays for me. My mom, grandma, brother, father-in-law, cousins, close friends, and my husband, Rasheed, are all born during this month. The only problem is Rasheed is no longer with us physically, but how do you tell that to your heart? This year marks Rasheed’s third up above, and our third without him. These big days don’t seem to get any easier without him, but I am learning how to navigate this winding road through Grieftown. “I mean, they say

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Lean On Me

Kimberly Holmes-Iverson

Dec 30, 2018
1 min

Lean On Me

I honestly believe God gives us more than we can handle so we must lean on Him. Two Christmases ago I was a young widow struggling to find her way. I had just moved back to my parents’ home & my sister wanted us to take family pictures. I look at the photos of me in the gray & see the struggle in my eyes & heartache on my hips. In Rasheed’s last two years on this planet I was the heaviest I’ve ever been. I was frustrated with my weight, but that man loved me even more then &

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Love Lights the Way

Kimberly Holmes-Iverson

Jun 4, 2018
5 min

Love Lights the Way

“Out of the night that covers me, Black as the Pit from pole to pole, I thank whatever gods may be For my unconquerable soul. In the fell clutch of circumstance I have not winced nor cried aloud. Under the bludgeonings of chance My head is bloody, but unbowed. Beyond this place of wrath and tears Looms but the Horror of the shade, And yet the menace of the years Finds, and shall find, me unafraid. It matters not how strait the gate, How charged with punishments the

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Two Years.

Kimberly Holmes-Iverson

Apr 16, 2018
3 min

Two Years.

No matter how much my head tries to prepare for the day, my heart knows what it means and feels the full weight. April 16, 2016. Two years ago everything changed. Two years ago today three cars took me from a wife to a widow. Two years ago today I left the movies with my husband and ended that typical Saturday with the need to bury that beautiful man a week later. The lights. The crowd. The trooper walking me to the backseat of the cruiser. “Ma’am, I’m sorry…” I didn’t unders

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Happy 41st Heavenly Birthday, Baby

Kimberly Holmes-Iverson

Mar 24, 2018
9 min

Happy 41st Heavenly Birthday, Baby

Balloons, cake, laughter and love. They are elements typically required to celebrate a birthday. Last year I incorporated all of those into my husband’s 40th heavenly birthday party. Yup. I threw Rasheed a party nearly a year after he had passed away. I mainly did it because that man never wanted me to make a big fuss over him, but a few days after his 39th birthday (and a few weeks before he was killed) he agreed to allow me to throw him a big 40th celebration where he could

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In Returning and Rest

Kimberly Holmes-Iverson

Mar 20, 2018
2 min

In Returning and Rest

Sometimes you need to take some time to simply breathe. It’s easy to feel the heartache, the difficult job, the sickness, the disappointment we’re feeling from whatever ails you in life is your sentence. Don’t. Trials will come, but they won’t last – at least not with the same weight. Those difficult times are merely seasons, and like all seasons they won’t go on forever. Rest and the simple act of unplugging for a bit will help you make it to the other side. I know it can be

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Just Breathe.

Kimberly Holmes-Iverson

Jan 2, 2018
2 min

Just Breathe.

Sometimes I give myself permission to just… be. No smiles. No sparkle. To breathe deeply through the good moments and the bad. To love hard because that’s all this life is about. To fiercely protect my family from the fools of this world and my own inner child, as well, because we all need a warrior, and baby, I’m up to the task. 2017 wasn’t easy, but I’m grateful for the growth it brought me. I can start to see the light that permeated even the mundane moments we shared when

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Finding the New Me in an Old Body

Kimberly Holmes-Iverson

Dec 17, 2017
5 min

Finding the New Me in an Old Body

‘tis the season to reflect, right? I mean, this time of year, you can’t help but look back on what you accomplished, what you didn’t, and what you’d like to do in the new year. A recent conversation with my bff made me realize how much I’ve physically changed this year. A few weeks ago I had posted something random on social media. She asked if I was eating. I thought she meant at that moment because she was about to tell me something gross. She meant in general. To be honest

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My American Quilt

Kimberly Holmes-Iverson

Jul 2, 2017
4 min

My American Quilt

“Mom, can I have fries with my shawarma?” My American experience is unique. Born in Houston, my parents moved me to the Middle East when I was four years old. My dad’s job transferred him. The move changed our lives. It wasn’t just the food we ate, the roads we traveled or even the fact my mom could no longer drive those roads because women weren’t allowed to drive in Saudi Arabia. That move opened my eyes to opportunities. My world literally became bigger. Summer trips to Pa

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One Year Out.

Kimberly Holmes-Iverson

May 12, 2017
6 min

One Year Out.

I desperately wish I could go back in time. To the days when we texted stupid things throughout the day. To the days when I yelled at you for staying in the gym too long. To the days when you, me and Lola spent all day inside on a Saturday eating pizza for all our meals because we were too lazy to go to the grocery store. I’ll even take most April 16, 2016. It started off simply, sweetly and normally enough. Lazy morning in bed, pancake breakfast at the clubhouse and then an

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We Miss You.

Kimberly Holmes-Iverson

Apr 16, 2017
1 min

We Miss You.

A year ago today, my earthly angel became my heavenly angel. Rasheed, we all miss you more than most can comprehend. Until I hold you in my arms again. Forever Yours, KW Rasheed Amin Wiggins March 24, 1977 – April 16, 2016 #widow #griefandloss #loveofmylife #missinghim #grief #marriage #hope #love #loss #sadness #healing

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The Week I Never Thought I’d Make It To See

Kimberly Holmes-Iverson

Apr 11, 2017
1 min

The Week I Never Thought I’d Make It To See

This Sunday will mark exactly one year since my earthly angel became my heavenly one. A few weeks ago, Rasheed and my closest friends & family gathered at my parents’ home for what would have been his 40th birthday. This picture was taken that weekend. It was a beautiful time, and I’ll share more later. This week, I’m trying to reflect on my growth; How I’m learning to grow where I’m planted– even though I often wish God would have “plucked” me, too, that April 16th. There’s

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A Case of the Sundays

Kimberly Holmes-Iverson

Apr 2, 2017
1 min

A Case of the Sundays

Sometimes it hits you hard & fast. You get a glimpse of your old self– your old smile, your old worries, your old life. You remember what it was like to look forward to him returning from work; him bringing you flowers; him loving you — live & in person. The pictures & the memories help, but sometimes, sometimes you just want your husband to hold you. It may seem like torture, but I posted this one on my fridge because it reminds me of how happy I once was, and forces me to t

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HOME

Kimberly Holmes-Iverson

Mar 19, 2017
2 min

HOME

It’s where you feel safe, warm and happy. It’s where your loved ones come to visit, and you lounge in your pj’s all day, eating food that makes you smile from your gut while sharing laughs with those who know you the best. It’s where you snuggle on the couch with your special one and enjoy bad tv and good blankets. Last month I bought our first one. But you weren’t there to sign on the other dotted line. You weren’t there to calm me down when the invasive process became overw

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